This time last week I set my intention to self-publish my novel next year and over the last several days, I remembered that wanting to do something is not the same as doing it. Or as Antoine de Saint-Exupéry once said, “A goal without a plan is just a wish.”
And while I was initially inspired to write my book to show my son that dreams or wishes do come true, I also realised that juggling my business and being a mother requires a more strategic plan to reach my goal. In other words, I need to find a way to reclaim my writing time.
When I had written my initial drafts, I had an office at the end of my road where I could go to when my son had fallen asleep and write until as late as I wanted. A couple of years ago, I moved out of the office and I now work in a shared space without 24-hour access.
At home, I don’t have the same discipline in the evenings. There’s always the temptation of ‘Netflix and chill’ to unwind. Dare I watch Mad Men for the third time? And I love doing some of my work at night; the type of work that requires strategic thinking while I’m not having to share my time with emails, meetings and the 101 things I need to do in my work.
Trying to figure out my new writing time, I first asked myself ‘morning or night?’ The short answer was nighttime. The overthinking thought process considered how busy my mind is when I wake up; how all I can really think about is what my son has on that day. What needs to go in his school bag? Is he wearing his school uniform to school or his PE kit? Is it piano day? And does he have after school club? Yes? Then we need to grab an after-school snack on the way to school. The list is endless and it gets more complicated if I have to hit the ground running with a meeting for work. So mornings are out also because I feel too nervous about the idea of starting to write and not knowing what time my son will actually wake up. After all, I go to sleep too late to even consider waking up at 4am to write for two hours. So evening it is. It’s 10.30pm as I write this post and I’m thinking 9.30pm for an hour or two would be an ideal time to write.
With the time decided, now I need to think about the where. Do I try to write at home? With so many distractions around me? My other half is an absolute angel with helping out but I am easily distracted. So I either pick a nook where there are absolutely zero distractions; like Stephen King who used to write in a laundry room, or I head outside. My gym closes at 11pm and then at least I’d be able to squeeze in a 30 minute run or swim - but then I’d only be able to write for an hour.
The where is as important as the when and I think this is where discipline is needed the most. Whichever space I choose, I need to make sure I get there on time and switch off any distractions. A huge benefit of writing in a public space is that the temptation to open Netflix would be very slim because hey, what’s the point of leaving your home to watch Suits?
When it comes to other writers, I love reading about their writing mindset. E.B. White famously said, “A writer who waits for ideal conditions under which to work will die without putting a word on paper”, while in a 2004 article in The Paris Review, Japanese novelist Haruki Murakami stated, “The repetition itself becomes the important thing.”
I love this article on famous authors’ writing routines by James Clear who wrote a book I love called Atomic Habits. Clear believes in making small changes to make a big impact. And if I’m going to apply this thought process along with making the goal simple, attractive and easy to achieve then I know what I am going to have to do. I will start back with an hour a day (because while my writing has slowed down, reading is still a priority as a writer, so I need time for that too) and as for the where I will go for the low hanging fruit and sit at my desk at home, switch off the wifi (while keeping my fingers crossed my other half will be ok with it).
So apart from having to complete last year’s tax filling and my Q2 VAT, I really have no excuse not to start tomorrow (she writes, knowing that the next email will be to her accountant). This goal is what’s pushing me forward because while there are a thousand and one things to deal with, we only have one life to make our dreams come true. And as much as I want to show my son that dreams can come true, I want to show my mother that everything she believed I could do, I managed to do it.